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Why do we feel the need to take on others’ opinions?

By EK Wills Why do we feel the need to take on others’ opinions? Today I went to pick out a new pair of glasses and I took someone along to assist the process, who I consider to be a good judge of style aka my husband. Most of the options were dull and I was looking for something with more spark. My support person was choosing different ones to me and it was taking a long time. The sales assistant was most helpful, upsold me to a fancy frame, and I walked away feeling slightl

By EK Wills A friend lost her kindred sister to the horror of violence this week. The attacker was someone she had previously trusted and shockingly this is still not unusual in society generally. In the week of International Women’s Day it is important to reflect on the situation for women because the struggle has not eased. In India in 2012 there was an horrific attack on a woman on a bus where she was beaten, raped repeatedly by a gang in Delhi, and left for dead. There wa

by EK Wills Do you doubt yourself even when you have achieved goals you set for yourself? Or feel unloved even when surrounded by family and friends? Maybe you think there is something wrong with you because everyone else seems to have to it all together more than you do? These thoughts can form core beliefs that we operate with on a daily basis. In the psychological world, they are called schemas and can be seen as cognitive distortions that effect the way we function and c

by EK Wills Do you lavish each other with praise and gifts? Or are you restrained, aiming to teach about saving for the future? And how does this affect the next generation? Do they grow up with the same values as the parents: a learned habit that is handed on to the next generation? Does that affect your amount of monetary success? Our family had a modern split so step-parents were involved in complicating the level of family influence. The result was polar opposite approa